About Us

Image courtesy of In Her Image Photography.


We are T and J, (legally) married lesbians living in California’s wine country.  We both work in academia, though T is pursuing work as a doula now as well. We started trying to get me–T–pregnant in May of 2007. Our first donor was a very generous PhD candidate who shipped his sperm to us through the mail using BioTranz. We had eight attempts before he had to move to a location from which he would no longer be able to ship. We had a good long break, and when we started up again, we bought frozen sperm and did at-home inseminations. On our third try, I got pregnant. Our positive pregnancy test came on New Year’s Eve of 2008, and our Baby Genius (BG) was born in early September 2009.

After three beautiful years with our Boy Genius, we learned in August of 2012 that he had a very rare form of leukemia. Through five and a half months of treatments including a bone marrow transplant, our sweet boy shared his light with the world and showed us how to love bigger than anything. In a devastating turn, he lost his battle with leukemia in February of 2013. You can follow our journey through leukemia at our other blog, C is for Crocodile.

We’re now wading through the agony that is losing our beautiful Boy Genius and moving toward trying for another child.


Our Blog

This blog chronicles our journey through the process of becoming parents. For nearly two years, I wrote primarily about trying to conceive (TTC); the following year was consumed with pregnancy details, and the few years beyond that have focused on our boy, parenting matters, and even lesbian marriage issues. While we had all but abandoned this space to write about our son’s illness on the other blog, we’re returning to our first blog home to write about the aftermath a bit and to chronicle our journey toward our next baby.


Anything Else?

If you have questions for us, feel free to leave them here or send them to reproducinggenius at gmail dot com.

13 responses to “About Us

  1. Hey guys,

    Just came across your website. My girlfriend and I have been together for 5 years (We are 23 and 25)…..and are planning on getting pregnant in the next year and a half. I was actually looking up how-to’s for home insemination and your website popped up. I think it is so wonderful that you both are sharing your journey with everyone. I will continue to check back regularly. The thought of the insemination process that we will go through in the near future is so exciting for me…..so, I can’t imagine the emotions you two have right now….being in the middle of the process! Good luck to you both!!!!!!!!!!


  2. reproducinggenius

    Welcome, Tiffany!
    I’m glad that you found us. The process you’re embarking on is a very exciting one indeed, full of ups and downs. You’re going to love it!

    Have you decided yet which of you will be getting pregnant?

    By the way, if you want a great site with instructions for home inseminations, visit Fertility Plus. We have a link to it under the Helpful TTC Links.

    Thanks for visiting, and we look forward to seeing you here in the future! Good luck with your journey!


  3. Tiffany

    Hey T & J,

    Thanks for the info … I will definitely be checking out the links on your site. I did look at Fertility Plus and got some great how-to’s from there – thanks!!

    My girlfriend and I (Karli) are looking forward to the journey. I will be carrying the child. I have always known that I wanted to give birth! We have a very close friend that does not want children of his own, and he will be donating for us!! It is going to be so amazing, because he will be able to have a role in our child’s life. It’s just so awesome that he wants to help us start our family. He knows he doesn’t want to be a dad and is just excited to make our dream a reality! So…knowing we’re going through this process in the future is unbelievably exciting for me….the past few weeks (coming across your website and researching more on the specifics of the insemination process) it has been on my mind more and more. Our plan is for me to give birth when I’m 25 and Karli will be 27. So….it’s coming up quickly. There are a few things we still want to do…have a wedding ceremony and travel a little bit!! But, after that, it’s baby time!!

    I am honestly so thrilled to have come across your website….and the links to the other sites off your page…I had no clue there were so many other wanna-be mommas out there just like us, that were going through what we’re going through!! I wish I could find couples like you guys in our Richmond, Virginia area. I feel you on the whole “community” posting!!!!!!!! Okay, sorry this is so long. Don’t suppose either of you are on Facebook……???

  4. reproducinggenius

    That’s great that you’ve found a donor. We’ve had a couple of different friends over the years whom we thought would be our donors, and then circumstances changes, so it’s good that you will be striking while the iron is hot, so to speak!

    I’m so glad that you found our site too! It can seem like a lonely journey when you don’t have a lot of community where you live, so finding it online can be really helpful. It seems to me that there are some couples in Virginia who are at various stages in this process who also have blogs, so you may want to look around. A number of the sites off of ours have bigger blogrolls, so if you look at those, you’re likely to find people at least a little closer to your area. That’s the great thing about our online community: we’re absolutely everywhere!

    Unfortunatley, neither of us is on Facebook or any of the other social networking sites. This blog is about all we can handle! Feel free to contact us anytime through the site though.


  5. Hey, I just saw that you have me listed in your blogroll. I’ll start reading your blog too. I’m especially interested to learn your story since you’re using fresh sperm-mail too.

    Good luck!

  6. Emily

    hi! It’s Emily from FF, and I just noticed that you are now on IVP too! great to see you.

  7. reproducinggenius

    Hi Emily–glad to see you here! Welcome!

  8. boombababy

    just un-lurking as i jump around on these ttc blogs … really love your blog 🙂

  9. Congratulations on your baby on the way. Motherhood is an amazing journey – best of luck to you both on this adventure.


  10. Charlene

    Hey ladies-
    just recently found your blog site and all I can say is WOW! My partner and I have been trying to have a baby for 7 months now and gee wiz the stresses that go along with it are CRAZY! I sure didn’t think it would be like this. Reading all the ups and downs that you guys have gone through make it easier for me to see that there is still a chance, a light at the end of the tunnel so to speak.
    thanks again for a great site, keep up the great blog!

  11. Hi T & J,

    I found your blog a while ago, but have only recently found myself with time to play around online. I’m enjoying following your journey! My wife and I are in the TTC phase right now and are pretty excited about our next steps. Incidentally, I see that you both teach at the college level. That is what I’m working toward as well. In fact, I’m in the process right now of applying to graduate school in Women’s Studies. What discipline(s) do you and your wife teach?


    • reproducinggenius

      Hi Abby! Thanks for your comment. I am not currently teaching, but when I do, I teach writing (the first-year composition variety)–as does my lovely wife. Best of luck to you on your TTC journey! I hope it’s a short one. I’ll be sure to check out your blog!

  12. Hey! Just came across your site – love reading about other lesbian couples! Congrats on your beautiful family! My partner and I adopted 🙂

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