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We are T and J, (legally) married lesbians living in California’s wine country. We both work in academia, though T is pursuing work as a doula now as well. We started trying to get me–T–pregnant in May of 2007. Our first donor was a very generous PhD candidate who shipped his sperm to us through the mail using BioTranz. We had eight attempts before he had to move to a location from which he would no longer be able to ship. We had a good long break, and when we started up again, we bought frozen sperm and did at-home inseminations. On our third try, I got pregnant. Our positive pregnancy test came on New Year’s Eve of 2008, and our Baby Genius (BG) was born in early September 2009.
After three beautiful years with our Boy Genius, we learned in August of 2012 that he had a very rare form of leukemia. Through five and a half months of treatments including a bone marrow transplant, our sweet boy shared his light with the world and showed us how to love bigger than anything. In a devastating turn, he lost his battle with leukemia in February of 2013. You can follow our journey through leukemia at our other blog, C is for Crocodile.
We’re now wading through the agony that is losing our beautiful Boy Genius and moving toward trying for another child.
This blog chronicles our journey through the process of becoming parents. For nearly two years, I wrote primarily about trying to conceive (TTC); the following year was consumed with pregnancy details, and the few years beyond that have focused on our boy, parenting matters, and even lesbian marriage issues. While we had all but abandoned this space to write about our son’s illness on the other blog, we’re returning to our first blog home to write about the aftermath a bit and to chronicle our journey toward our next baby.
If you have questions for us, feel free to leave them here or send them to reproducinggenius at gmail dot com.