Because google is taking its blog reader away from us, I have recently found myself transitioning over to another reader, and in the process, taking a look at what I haven’t read lately. One blog I came across was from a mom blogger (not part of our LGBT TTC community) I used to occasionally enjoy, though I can’t say I was a regular reader. I found her snarky, funny, and typically enjoyable to read. So I set about reading this post that spent a couple of thousand words complaining about her annoying children, and I found myself feeling sicker and sicker and sicker. I wrote a bit of a ranty comment (which she hasn’t yet approved–probably a good thing) when I probably should have slunk away instead of being some sort of wet blanket at the snarky mom party. But I didn’t.
There’s something about taking a long time to become a mom, seeing the hell people go through to get their kids that makes a person more sensitive to this sort of thing. There’s something about losing a child that makes this sort of whiny snark-fest even less tolerable. I found myself yesterday looking at a few of these other similar blogs, people who openly dislike being mothers, who make a living on talking about how shitty their kids are or how justified they feel yelling at them, and after my incredulous head shaking stopped, I just felt sad about how much these moms are missing because they seem to be missing everything.
But then I consider this blog community, you readers out there who waited and read and cheered as we worked toward making BG, who cheered one another on and held each other up through positive pregnancy tests and postponed inseminations and failed cycles and miscarriages and births of healthy and less healthy babies, and I am so very grateful to be amidst a group of women who just get it. You get how sacred our children are, and even on your worst days when parenting is just shit, you remember what your blog sisters have endured, and you consider them in your writing and even in how you treat your kids. It’s pretty remarkable, and having been the recipient of so much kindness and generosity from this community, I just want to thank you for being really fabulous people.