not so surprising

We have decided to move again. I have never in my life lived somewhere for such a short amount of time, but as you all know, this has been a few weeks coming.

Now that the moving stress has worn off and J and I have had the opportunity to settle in a bit, explore our neighborhood, and most importantly, spend some time in our lovely new town, we both agreed that this is the very sort of place we want to live. We love the town so much. We love the neighborhood. We want to see BG grow up here. We don’t, however, want to spend exorbitant amounts of money improving someone else’s property when what we really want is our own home.

The idea of buying a home is central to the American dream, but for years, we have wanted none of it. We considered ourselves nomads. We never really knew where we would end up, and we didn’t want to be tied down somewhere if it wasn’t where we planned to stay. This is why we never entertained the idea of buying a house in Humboldt, even though the prices would have been more our speed.

But here, both of us are dreaming for the first time of seriously putting down roots, and with that comes buying a place. We have a long way to go before we get there. We’re probably looking at a few years of saving, planning, trying to make our work in academia somehow more stable while pursuing our other goals at the same time. But we want it, and both of us have admitted it to the other at the same time.

What does that have to do with our current living situation? Well, we know that we’re going to have to put in at least a thousand dollars to make this place livable, and that sort of makes us sick. We don’t want to put the work in here. We don’t want to improve this jerk-of-a-landlord’s property value when she’s not willing to spend a penny on it herself. So we’re going to find a place as soon as we can–probably some kind of townhouse in a complex in town. We just sold our second car, so it would be convenient to be able to walk everywhere, but it would also give us the opportunity to save a little while having someone else take care of issues like lawns and such. It has to be somewhere with a little yard, which is going to be challenging to find but not impossible. It has to be safe, and it has to be free of rodents and pot smoke and mold, and it needs to be suitable for a couple of years. The great thing about this area is that the country is no more than a mile away regardless of the direction you drive, so we won’t be far from peace or even lots of apple trees. They just won’t likely be ours–for now.

It is rather anxiety-inducing to think about moving again so soon, but we plan to move when J finishes up the semester, and my mom will be able to help us with BG, and everything will be rosy and positive and a step forward. Hell, moving back to our old place (which is NOT something we’re going to do) would be a step up from here. But we’re taking wobbly little toddler steps (thanks, Strawberry) toward our dream, and that’s starting to feel good. I already feel a bit lighter.

In fact, we packed a few boxes today. That’s how serious we are. Holy hell, I can’t believe we’re going to pack again.

In other more escapist news, it’s been since before BG was born that we have taken a proper vacation. We had planned to do a Yosemite trip, but to do what we wanted to do, we needed to have planned our trip a year ago. Therefore, we’re going to San Diego at the end of May–maybe spend some time at the beach, hit up some children’s museums, venture through the zoo, and more. I cannot begin to tell you how delightful this feels to be planning such a trip. Anyone have any suggestions for must-see stops there? We’ve both been there but only for brief stops and never to spend any time, so we’re very excited for the upcoming respite and some adventure with our boy genius.


Filed under Baby Genius, moving, new beginnings, vacation

6 responses to “not so surprising

  1. San Diego is my hometown!!! I miss it greatly.

    The best things to do there-

    Touristy, but great, are:
    -Disneyland (hour and a half north of SD)
    -The San Diego Wild Animal Park (which, in my opinion, is MUCH better than the zoo!!! The WAP has a free safari that takes you around this huuuuuuuge enclosure where they let the giraffes, gazelles, hippos, rhinos, etc roam free- it’s amazing to see!)

    The best kid-friendly beach is La Jolla Shores- it’s got a playground, nice bathrooms, large grassy space, and the sand is generally clean. The waves aren’t too big and it’s truly beautiful.

    Also be sure to stop by the La Jolla Children’s pool to show BG the colony of seals that lives there- they have a sea wall you can walk out on, or you can go down on the beach itself and stand less than 50 feet away from them. If I’m not mistaken, it’s pupping season right now so there’s tons of little baby seals splashing around- too cute to miss.

    Balboa park has a lot of really cool museums (Tuesdays are free museum day), nice picnic areas, botanical gardens, and really cool historic architecture and fountains. It’s a great place to go for a really nice, relaxing day.

    I haven’t been to the Children’s museum there in years but the last time I was there, it was amazing! BG would probably like it.

    And finally, make sure you visit Julian as well. It’s this tiny little historic mountain town, about an hour and a half drive (if you’re starting from downtown) from SD, and it’s a great visit in the summer. It’s famous for it’s homemade pies (apple cherry crumb is the best 🙂 ) but there’s a lot of other historic stuff to see there too, plus it makes for a truly beautiful drive.

    /end longest comment ever. Sorry, I get a little excited when someone mentions SD! You can email me if you want more info. 🙂

  2. Hooray!!!! So glad you are moving on to cleaner, safer pastures 🙂

  3. Sounds like a plan, and a good one at that!

  4. I like your new plan for housing and your vacation!

  5. Jen

    Sounds like a wonderful plan and you will be much happier in the long run. Yay to vacations–I have never been to San Diego, but it is on my list.

  6. A.

    Oh, ladies. I’m just sorry that this didn’t work out. BUT, I think your plan is a great one. It’s great that you’ve found the right town…next, is the house. 🙂

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