my budding procrastinator

Our son is 14 months old today, and he does not walk. We’re not worried because he shows many signs that his muscle development is just fine. It seems that he just isn’t interested. We get questions all the time though: “Does he walk yet?” And when we respond that he doesn’t, people look at us, aghast, and say “Really?!” Yes, really. He doesn’t walk. And he’s normal. It’s not because he doesn’t have the opportunity–the boy cruises all over the living room, all over his room, our room, but he just isn’t into doing it on his own, and lately, he doesn’t like us to help him do it either. He used to, but now he will plant his butt on the floor and rip his hands out of ours if we try. He’s telling us he’s just not ready. He likes things the way they are.

We’re very okay with that. He gets around very well with crawling, which is just fine. But even that took him some time. He didn’t army crawl until he was nine months old. He didn’t start cross crawling until he was eleven months old. The boy likes to take his time.

And he always has taken his time. With rolling over, we were becoming concerned that at five months he wasn’t rolling regularly, and then over lunch, J and I were reading a developmental milestones book to one another, and that day he rolled. It was as though he was saying, Rolling? Oh, yeah–I can do that.  No need to nag me about it; see, I did it. Now get off my back already! The same day, he showed us his pincer grasp (we had also read about this). The boy does things on his own time; he just likes to cut things close to the wire.

I think we are seeing the emergence of a procrastinator. He will work on one of his skills, and then not pay much attention to it until just before the cutoff for normalcy, and then he’ll show us that he can do it. Early on, this would worry us. Now we know it’s just a thing he does, so we relax about it.

So, no, our son doesn’t walk. Why would he? He’s still got at least three months.

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7 responses to “my budding procrastinator

  1. Yep, totally normal. Nutella didn’t walk until 18 months. And while Miles started crawling early (5.5 months), he didn’t take his first steps until a week before his 14th month. The questions are totally annoying though, I hear ya.

  2. Jen

    All kids are totally different and most people do not understand that! We would get the same questions and stares when chunk wasn’t crawling at 9 months… I would just say, nope, he doesn’t show any interest and have you seen his belly– he can’t crawl. Then over night, he crawled, pulled up to a stand and is crusing around furniture. With all kids, it will happen when they are ready. I think BG is brillant for taking his time and enjoying a relaxing life. He will have a lifetime of walking!

  3. Bird didn’t roll over until late (5 months from tummy to back, 9 months from back to tummy). We really worried. And she never crawled. We got her into Early Intervention. They said they couldn’t really find a problem but she definitely had a delay, but one that would probably work itself out. When she was 16 months she crawled, pulled up and stand and took her first steps all within three days. By 18 months she was running and even climbing a tiny ladder to go down a tiny slide. We couldn’t believe it. They kicked her out of EI a few weeks early.

    The questions are really annoying, though. It was so hard for us at her one year mark when people were asking about her walking all the time. I wanted to cry when they asked. I wanted to say, nope, not walking, crawling, or even standing! Ugh. But in her time, Bird found her way. BG will too. 🙂

  4. A.

    I love this post…it’s a perfect reflection of how we feel about Owen’s development. He’ll get to it…when he gets to it. so leave us alone, people. 🙂

    Love that BG.

  5. poppycat

    No need to rush into things little man! You walk when you are good and ready I know.

  6. Rex

    There has recently been a study released with the many benefits of extended crawling versus early walkers. Among some of those benefits are hand-eye coordination, muscle tone, and emotional coping skills later in life.

  7. Lucy

    Its so refreshing to hear parents who embrace their kid’s individual pace of development. I have so many friends/family/online buddies who panic over the slightest delay and it just leads to lots of unnecessary stress and anxiety. Its really cool to see that you’re relaxed and patient! A lesson that would benefit many a parent 🙂

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