I’m sure many of you have read about the woman who just had octuplets, and today, CBS is reporting that this woman, who is apparently rather young, has six other children, and lives (along with those kids) with her parents in what is likely a 3-bedroom house. No one has confirmed whether or not any sort of fertility treatments were involved, but I think in this community we all know they probably were.
I must first say that I support single moms by choice. I don’t think women need a partner to have a child or even multiple children. However, at some point, when one is living with one’s parents in what seems to already be a fairly difficult situation, shouldn’t one opt NOT to have more children? Putting aside the dangers of a pregnancy like this to both mom and the babies, what is this going to do to those around them? What about these other children who are likely to become caretakers for their siblings? How much of their lives do they have to sacrifice for mom’s choices?
How is this woman (or her parents) going to afford to raise fourteen children? Maybe she’s got hoards or cash. More likely is that she’ll be given all sorts of donations from the usual suspects because her multiples birth is so unusual. As someone who is trying to make ends meet so that our child has a good life, I just don’t find this fair. Those women out there who opted NOT to inseminate or have sex when they had too many follicles growing aren’t going to get a special van or house or even diapers for a year for having just one or two kids. None of us is.
This woman and her doctor clearly made some decisions that led to her litter of children, and I’m not sure those decisions should be rewarded.
I’m curious, though. What do you think?